Online dating sucks but that's how i met my wife
Stop talking about your ex, your kids, your money, etc. Some therapy, meditation, or a little alone time wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you.
The point is, hold back from dating until you're healed. GF #1: "Nothing is a bigger turn-on to a woman in her 50s than a man that makes her feel like she's the best thing that ever happened to him." GF #2: "Be honest with her and don't lead her on.
You can prepare a lovely Italian meal for a guy, and all of a sudden he brings up the fact his ex made the best lasagna of all time." GF #2: "Men in their fifties can be cynical, especially if they were in a bad marriage.
They talk about how awful their ex-wives are, and how much money they had to give them." GF #3: "Getting involved with a guy who's still reeling from his divorce can sometimes feel like he's having an affair, except that the 'other woman' isn't a woman, it's his anger." My Advice: Dump the baggage, dude.
I could sometimes detect a flicker of interest, at most, before they ran away. From what I gathered from my Japanese girlfriends, it seemed to involve a lot of passiveness, indirect communication, text messaging, misunderstandings and patience.
After wasting months subtly pursuing a guy at work only to discover he had a girlfriend, I quit the Japanese way – and bento making, also described by my friends as a boyfriend magnet in Japan.
So men, before you break out into a cold sweat, know that all this is well intended and researched. Since I got married for the first time at 51, I can speak from experience when it comes to dating men in their 50s.
Listening and wanting to know everything about her earns you major points." GF #3: "Keep an open mind and heart.
Let go of your fear and allow yourself to love again." Here's the good news: Chicks dig fellas in their 50s.
Chivalry and romance aren't dead -- in fact, they're alive and well and much appreciated.
So take your time getting to know your date; ask questions, be curious.
To me, that's a turn-off." GF #2: "Some men don't want to invest the time it takes getting to know you.